Finding Your Soul Mate.

The pursuit of love. Love is our greatest source of happiness and it does not have to depend on random chance. So let us begin the search. The search for that perfect mate is really a quest for wholeness - a completion of oneself. Finding your soul mate is what true seekers of love wish for.

It is believed that soul mates were created together in the beginning and share a unique destiny. Perhaps created as one, they were separated into two spheres of being-one in a masculine polarity and the other in a feminine polarity-but each with the same pattern of divine identity. Their tie is eternal, and after they have found each other they will be together forever. But not all the beautiful and soul fulfilling loves stories are those of finding your one true love. Some believe we can have many soul mates. Soul mates sometimes share a complementary calling in life. They are partners and helpmates who are often working to develop the same virtues and fulfill the oneness that is sought. These relationships tend to be quite harmonious and satisfying, and such kindred souls can accomplish great things together. Here the two individuals are drawn together for the balancing of one another - or karma, as some may say. The karmic tie may be the tightest of all and begin with the strongest attraction.

What is more, associations with some individuals are more conducive to growth than associations with others; therefore, it is prudent to choose carefully our companions. This principle is probably easy for us to accept if we merely reflect on the types of influence various friends and acquaintances have had on us in the past. The impact is most powerful in a marriage relationship, and a good union should be founded upon a shared purpose in life and the capacity to help each other to grow.

How do you know this is your soul mate? Some say you recognize this someone with such an intense and immediate sense of intimacy that the connection is very powerful. We all share a deep, primal inner longing for a sense of perfect union that has taken on the label "soul mate" in recent years. This driving "romantic" urge has been examined from all kinds of perspectives. But I prefer this simple explanation by Thomas Moore.

“A soul mate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communication and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace. This kind of relationship is so important to the soul that many have said there is nothing more precious in life."

For those who want to love deeply, passionately and well, I would suggest we spend less time "looking for" our soul mates, and more time CREATING them. These spiritual bonds must begin somewhere and somehow. Why not here and now?

The key to wholeness in all of the explanations is to love every soul.