Isnin, Mac 29, 2004

' ... i saw First 50 Dates and it was a romantic flick '

I asked the subscribers of my ezine, The Romantic Tip of the Week, to give me ONE romantic movie they would recommend to other couples. Here is a list of their suggestions. I have not personally seen all of these movies so they are not necessarily endorsed by me.

A number of titles were also recommend by a handful of people. I need to see a good romantic movie after Jerry Maguire ... nothing beats Jerry Maguire.

Return to Me

Message In a Bottle

English Patient


A Knight's Tale

Pretty Woman


Far and Away

Love Story

City of Angels

The Cutting Edge

Somewhere in Time

Regarding Henry


Untamed Heart

A Walk to Remember

You've Got Mail

Tortilla Soup


Annie Hall

The American President

The Princess Bride

Untamed Heart

Ever After

The African Queen

What Dreams May Come


A Walk in the Clouds

Barefoot in the Park

I Don't Buy Kisses Anymore

Kate & Leopold

Pearl Harbor

The Wedding Planner


An Affair to Remember

Sleepless in Seattle

When Harry Met Sally


Dr. Zhivago


The Bridges Over Madison County

Notting Hill

Il Postino

Harold & Maude (probably only for those who enjoy "art" films)

Never Been Kissed

Music from Another Room

The Saint

Bed of Roses

The Mirror Has Two Faces

Anne of Green Gables

Anne of Avonlea

Father Goose

The Sound of Music

Little Women

Top Gun



Joe Versus the Volcano

Fools Rush In

French Kiss

Runaway Bride


Forever Young

Breakfast at Tiffany's


Fiddler on the Roof

Dances with Wolves


Beauty and the Beast

The Cutting Edge


Room With a View

First Knight

Gone With the Wind

Groundhog Day


Dream a Little Dream

Can't Buy Me Love

It Could Happen To You

La Bamba

Romancing the Stone

Last of the Mohicans

The Scarlet Pimpernel

Pretty in Pink


The Mask of Zorro

Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves

Sense and Sensibility

Up Close and Personnel

The Wedding Singer

She's All That

While You Were Sleeping

Father of the Bride

The Three Musketeers

Love Affair

At First Sight

As Good As It Gets

Pillow Talk

Pay It Forward

Life Is Beautiful

Green Card

Truly, Madly, Deeply

Moulin Rouge

Sweet November

Like Water for Chocolate

Mystic Pizza

Dirty Dancing

Romeo & Juliet

Hope Floats

Sea of Love

Now Voyager

Only You

Family Man

Where the Heart Is

The Sure Thing

One Fine Day




Say Anything

Don Juan DeMarco


I Am Sam

St. Ives

Office and a Gentleman

Love & Basketball

The Fisher King

Down to You

Patch Adams

Some are born with it. Others discover it along the way. There are others who may never find it. For me, it was a skewed road that took me through several walks of life; hobby to hobby, major to major, job to job. I finally became aware of my passion. A story-teller. A dream-maker. One who mixes words with motion.

Now that I have discovered my lot-in-life, I wanted to take a look back. A look back in an attempt to shed some light on how I arrived at this realization and I invite you along for the ride. So, grab a chair and strap yourself in. For this next few coming , its going to be anew and different.

it has returned ...

i got it back ...

with me now.


Sabtu, Mac 27, 2004

( ... a poem for them - but you can read it too )


Why do you criticise me?

I am my harshest critic.

Why do you doubt me?

I am too pessimistic.

I spend too much time,

Telling myself I don’t try hard enough,

I spend too much time, telling myself,

I’ll never be good enough.

And so you tell me again, I don’t try hard enough.

And so you tell me again, I’m not good enough.

I’m not pretty enough, clever enough,

skinny enough, brave enough, funny enough,

happy enough, I should smile more.

And so you criticise me,

Look down on me,

And yet I’m critic enough for two of us,

three of us, four of us...

I spend too much time,

Telling myself I don’t try hard enough,

I spend too much time, telling myself,

I’ll never be good enough.

And so I’m lying here crying, hating myself,

And so you’re standing there watching,

me hating myself.

And so you carry on lecturing

what I should change.

And so you kick me again,

And again, and again, and again...

I spend too much time,

Telling myself I don’t try hard enough,

I spend too much time, telling myself,

I’ll never be good enough.

... for you?

Selasa, Mac 23, 2004

Listening for Love

There are times when we are timid and shy about expressing the love we feel. For fear of embarrassing the other person, or ourselves, we hesitate to say the actual words ‘I love you’. So we try to communicate the idea in other words. We say ‘take care’ or ‘don’t drive too fast’ or ‘be good’.
But really, these are just other ways of saying ‘I love you’. ‘You are important to me’, ‘I care what happens to you, and ‘I don’t want you to get hurt’ all mean ‘I love you’. We are sometimes very strange people. The only thing we want to say, and the one thing that we should say, is the one thing we don’t say. And yet because the feeling is so real, and the need to say it is so strong, we are driven to use other words and signs to say what we really mean. And many times the meaning never gets communicated at all and the other person is left feeling unloved and unwanted.

Therefore, I believe we have to listen for love in the words that people are saying to us. Sometimes the explicit words are necessary, but more often, the manner of saying things is even more important. A joyous insult carries more affection and love within the sentiments, which are expressed insincerely. An impulsive hug says ‘I love you’ even though the words might be saying something very different.
Any expression of a person’s concern for another says ‘I love you’. Sometimes the expression is clumsy, sometimes even cruel. Sometimes we must look and listen very intently for the love that it contains.
We say ‘I love you’ in many ways - with birthday gifts, and little notes, with smiles and sometimes with tears. Sometimes we show our love by just keeping quiet and not saying a word, at other times by speaking out, even harshly. We show our love sometimes by impulsiveness.

Many times we have to show our love by forgiving someone who has not listened to the love we have tried to express. The problem is listening for love is that we don’t always understand the language of love, which the other person is using. A girl may use tears or emotions to say what she wants to say, and her boyfriend may not understand her because he expects her to be talking his language. But some --- works both ways.

We have to force ourselves to really listen for love. The problem with our world is that people rarely listen to each other. They hear the words, but they don’t listen to the actions that accompany the words or the expression on the face. Or people listen only for rejection or misunderstanding. They do not see the love that is there just beneath the surface, even if the words are angry.

Ever heard that very haunting song, The Sound of Silence ??... It goes : Ten thousand people, maybe more. People talking without speaking; people hearing without listening; people writing songs that voices never shared, because no one dared disturb the sound of silence... It is a terrifying picture of our modern world, a world without communication and without love.

We have to listen for love in those around us. If we listen intently we will discover that we are a lot more loved than we realise.

Just listen.

Sabtu, Mac 20, 2004

Rabu, Mac 03, 2004

Finding Your Soul Mate.

The pursuit of love. Love is our greatest source of happiness and it does not have to depend on random chance. So let us begin the search. The search for that perfect mate is really a quest for wholeness - a completion of oneself. Finding your soul mate is what true seekers of love wish for.

It is believed that soul mates were created together in the beginning and share a unique destiny. Perhaps created as one, they were separated into two spheres of being-one in a masculine polarity and the other in a feminine polarity-but each with the same pattern of divine identity. Their tie is eternal, and after they have found each other they will be together forever. But not all the beautiful and soul fulfilling loves stories are those of finding your one true love. Some believe we can have many soul mates. Soul mates sometimes share a complementary calling in life. They are partners and helpmates who are often working to develop the same virtues and fulfill the oneness that is sought. These relationships tend to be quite harmonious and satisfying, and such kindred souls can accomplish great things together. Here the two individuals are drawn together for the balancing of one another - or karma, as some may say. The karmic tie may be the tightest of all and begin with the strongest attraction.

What is more, associations with some individuals are more conducive to growth than associations with others; therefore, it is prudent to choose carefully our companions. This principle is probably easy for us to accept if we merely reflect on the types of influence various friends and acquaintances have had on us in the past. The impact is most powerful in a marriage relationship, and a good union should be founded upon a shared purpose in life and the capacity to help each other to grow.

How do you know this is your soul mate? Some say you recognize this someone with such an intense and immediate sense of intimacy that the connection is very powerful. We all share a deep, primal inner longing for a sense of perfect union that has taken on the label "soul mate" in recent years. This driving "romantic" urge has been examined from all kinds of perspectives. But I prefer this simple explanation by Thomas Moore.

“A soul mate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communication and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace. This kind of relationship is so important to the soul that many have said there is nothing more precious in life."

For those who want to love deeply, passionately and well, I would suggest we spend less time "looking for" our soul mates, and more time CREATING them. These spiritual bonds must begin somewhere and somehow. Why not here and now?

The key to wholeness in all of the explanations is to love every soul.

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